For some, picking a flower girl may be really easy as you may have a small family or only one young girl who fits the suitable age (usually 3-8, but this is not a strict rule by any means). But for larger families with lots of candidates, this can be more of a challenge. If you can’t make up your mind and want no one to feel left out, remember that you can always have more than one flower girl. In fact, having more than one flower girl = more cuteness! It might even help the youngsters feel more at ease having someone else their own age with them and help them feel more confident.
Usually, the flower girl’s dress is a miniature version of the bride’s dress. If you don’t want to go down this route, there are many other options such as tea-length white dresses, satin gowns, or something more casual. Remember to pick something that they feel comfortable in. You can check out some inspiration here. Typically, the flower girl’s parents will pay for the dress, so make sure you take their budget into consideration, especially if the dress is only going to be worn once.
When picking out a dress for your flower girl, make sure to take into account that they are at an age where they grow very quickly. If your wedding is a while away, either leave this for later or plan in advance by buying a dress that is a few sizes bigger or can be altered. It’s always helpful talking to the parents about sizing and other details, maybe even letting them pick the dress for you to take some of the stress off.
Flower girls are part of the wedding party and have a big role so it’s important that they attend the bridal shower and any wedding rehearsals. They’re also little and need to know exactly what to do on the day so familiarity with the place, people and procedures will help a lot. Besides the rehearsal, you can also get your flower girl to watch videos on YouTube to learn what to do. It’s important to make sure they understand to walk slowly, and what they have to carry/if they have to throw petals a certain way. Allow them to practice many times but also, don’t put too much pressure on them.
Being a flower girl can be very nerve-wracking for some little girls. There are always ways you can make them feel more comfortable including: having their parents close by, having more than one flower girl so that they have a buddy with them and aren’t walking down the aisle alone and having someone they know sitting at the front of the ceremony so they can see them and feel at ease. Make sure to involve her in the day as much as you can so she feels comfortable. Also, if the bride and bridesmaids are stressing and worrying, this will only add to the flower girl’s nerves.
Even if your flower girl is confident and walks down the aisle perfectly at the rehearsal – things can still go wrong. Remember that it’s not a “make or break” situation, and even if they mess up it will still probably be really cute. Don’t stress too much, and let them know that it’s okay if they falter, get confused or make a mistake. There’s only so much you can do after all.
Flower girls are still young and they will need adult supervision. This could be their parents, grandparents, someone they’re familiar and comfortable with or maybe a sitter – just make sure the person taking care of them isn’t you! As a bride, you will have plenty on your plate already. It helps to have someone walk behind them in the wedding ceremony, and to have someone with them during the shower, rehearsal and reception.
Being a flower girl means a lot to some little girls, and it’s important to get them involved and make them feel a part of the wedding party – which they are. A flower girl can be a friend for life, and she looks up to you. Take time out of your busy schedule to hang out with your flower girl and build a relationship with her. Also, make sure you introduce her and allow her to familiarize herself with your bridesmaids so that the wedding day isn’t daunting for the little one.
Kids get tired really quickly, and can get quite moody and distressed. Make sure you don’t expect too much of your flower girl – set realistic timings for the ceremony If you want them to be at their best. Talk to the flower girl’s parents and make sure you all understand the wedding day procedure. It’s also important to take into consideration food and supervision for the reception as children can be quite fussy.
Sometimes, a flower girl will need a little incentive to get through the ceremony. A little bribery in the form of a small gift may help children be better-behaved. Remind them how much fun the whole thing will be and give them pep talks (this is something the parents can do as well). Also, it’s not always realistic to have a child be poised and well-mannered the whole day – flower girls can wilt and get tired. It’s a good idea to maybe set up a small area for them or a separate room where they can play or watch a movie (under supervision of course – a sitter may be a good idea) and keep busy while the grown-ups enjoy the wedding.
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