How To Avoid Becoming A Bridezilla

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Planning a wedding is hectic. You’re spending thousands of dollars on one day – arguably one of the most important in your life, so it’s only expected that you want everything to go according to plan. With so much to do before a deadline, planning everything from your shoes and dress to the food and music, it’s really no surprise that many women turn into the dreaded B-word.


There’s nothing wrong with asserting yourself where need be and having your voice and opinion heard over well-meaning friends, family and vendors – after all, it’s your big day. But sometimes, brides-to-be can go too far and come off as being rude or spoilt. Just because wedding planning is stressful, doesn’t get you off the hook. Here are some things to keep in mind to help when planning the wedding and avoid becoming the monster-like creature of wedding nightmares.

1) Talk about something other than your wedding

It may be all that’s on your mind and there may be times where wedding planning is all you can think about doing – but it’s important not to become too engrossed in planning the perfect day. Counselors and psychologists say that this is often how women process their emotions and confusing feelings over getting married and is a completely normal thing that you shouldn’t feel bad about. But keep in mind that as much as your friends and family are excited for you, they don’t really want an hour long recount of how the wedding planning is going every time you speak of them. They have important things going on in their life too; make sure to ask them about that too!

2) Ask for help if you need it

If it’s all getting a bit too much and you feel overwhelmed by it all, remember that it is okay to ask for help. Talk to your partner and allocate them some tasks to do as well because it’s their wedding as much as it is yours. Also, your maid-of-honor and bridesmaids are also there to help – delegate something for them, but not too much – they’re not your wedding planner! Talking about wedding planners, hire one. They can take over and do as much or as little as you want them to, but it’s extremely helpful navigating the wedding planning with someone experienced by your side. If you’re a bit of a control freak or perfectionist and like things done your way, just make sure you tell people what you want and delegate smaller, less important tasks to them.

3) Dealing with bridesmaids and the maid-of-honor

Being a bridesmaid or maid-of-honor is, well, an honour. Your friends are undoubtedly excited and happy for you and looking forward to the big day as well. The bridal party is there to help you, they're your confidants through the whole thing. They're there for taste-testing wedding cakes, dress shopping, picking the right shade of table dressing, flower arrangement choices and so much more. But at the end of the day - they're doing you a favour. As much as they would love to help, everyone has their own limits and is willing in their own way. Don't pile up a tonne on their to-do list and make them regret saying yes to being part of the bridal party. Use their skills and what they're good at to your advantage, but treat them as you would normally - the process is supposed to be fun - not a chore!

4) Stop being overly concerned with having the perfect wedding

Of course you want your wedding to be perfect – who doesn’t? It’s hard not to get caught up in all of it and not let things get out of control. But that’s exactly what you’re going to have to do. Don’t spend too much time on small things like the curlicues on your invitations; chances are no one will notice as much as you do. Prioritize and stick to your budget. What's more important; the exact shade of the flowers in your centerpieces or that you, your partner and your guests have a good time? Clichéd as it is, just enjoy the journey and don’t worry too much about every detail being perfect on the big day.

5) Relax, stay calm and listen

No matter how rage-inducing some aspects of wedding planning can be, it’s important to relax and stay calm. Take some time out if you feel yourself getting too overwhelmed, angry or upset. It’s always better tackling something with a clear and calm state-of-mind rather than doing it when you’re stressed. Take some time out to spend with your partner as well. You don’t want the stress of planning to drive a wedge between you. Also, make sure to remain calm around loved ones and vendors who are trying to help. There’s no use snapping at them, that won’t accomplish anything. Pay attention to what people are saying, most of the time they’ve only got your best interest at heart.


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